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The Flirt
The Flirt.
It’s all so simple at first
whether subconscious
or overt
manipulative maneuvers
may occur
I should come with
a warning sign
“Be careful or you may
fall in love with Her”
please don’t mistake this
for a chance
to get under my skirt
or you may get hurt
enter the mind
of a FLIRT.
For I am
completely aware
It starts with the
toss of my hair
no serious intention
a chemical disposition
and he can’t help
but to stare
making his hands wish
they were there….
and here
like pheromones secreted
in the atmosphere
attracting him near
my aura whispers
“come here, come here”…..
and I can’t be held accountable
for my actions
don’t really mean
to be a distraction
its just that
my swagga aint lackin
you’d have to be blind
not to see the attraction
I mesmerize his eyes
everytime I pass him
and before you knew it
……..it happened
an interaction
I say Hi
and softly smile
laugh at his jokes
compliment his style
all the while
stepping a bit closer
into his personal space
watching the uncomfortableness
ease on his face
making him forget
what he was about to say
attract his animalistic ways
stay
in silence
then look him in his eyes
when I speak
make him weak
just the idea that
he wants me
pleases me
and then I disperse
leaving him to question
was it just a flirt?
written by,
tina divina
Flirting….quite a natural instinct, we afterall by nature…. are not monogamous creatures, it is only with Faith, Love, and Care, that keeps us here… or there. However, when married or in a relationship, how tolerable is Flirting?
What is allowed or expected
and exactly where is the line drawn?? When is it just too much?
Holla at me,
~TD
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If you are committed, there is no toleration…right? Why would you tempt to harm your relationship, flirting with danger…unless you are unhappy or selfish…which one is it?
Adrian.. I challenge you:
Scene: you are in a grocery store, shopping, a woman approaches you and merelyy says “hi”, you smile and say “hi” back… it can instantly bne taken for flirting… or is it “just being friendly”….. if your woman were with you, 9 times outta 10, she would be heated, but why???
Holla….
Hey Ms Tina!
Beautiful and true. I like the way you write. Congrats on the new site. I look forward to reading more.
I love this Tina! It reads like a page from my diary! LOL…keep it coming!
Tina…challenged accepted
Answer: No sugar coating…depends on the type of woman I’m with for starters(I’ll tell you why in a sec) and how “FRIENDLY or flirtingly(my word) ” I say hi back.
She would be heated BECAUSE she is insecure and the jeally type…not 9, but 10 out of 10, its a problem…for the rest of the day/night! …with or without reason, whether I’m just being cordial or flirting..it’s an issue, that’s a crazy female trait, lol
Now, if she secure with hers, she is not going to pay it any mind…(unless I’m disrespectful with it)….hell, if the woman is bad…she might compliment her!
Now, If I go outta bounds and get disrespectful with it and “flirtingly” get extra with my hello and eyes..I’m outta pocket and need to get checked…
you tell me, TD…have i crossed the line? LOL
*sticks chest out*
*disguises his flexed biceps yet shows them consistantly for all to see*
“Flirting ey??? I never personally…” *adjusts sock in crotch*
*winks*
“Excuse me…”
*exhales slowly, struts out of Tina’s blog and shuts the door behind him*
*Opens door back up*
“Just left my Magnum XXl’s behind… My bad… Holla”
*struts back out*
I’ve been told that I’m a natural flirt because I speak with a smile. My husband for years has coined me as “too friendly” because I’m moved to say hello to a stranger and normally with a smile to follow. It’s not because I’m interested in that person, but because I know the difference that a mere “hello” and smile can make to the happiness of another person’s day.
So, to him because he interprets “SMILE…How you doing?” as a flirt, that can be too much.
I think as long as the flirt doesn’t overtly tell of your intentions it’s ok, because you could merely just be standing firm in your own and simply being NICE!
Great poem! Its cruel but its great lol.. Keep up the good work and congrats! FCC in the building!
Very interesting, but yet real. At some point in time everyone flirts wether it’s intentional or harmless. The wink, the smile or that extra friendly hello has occured wether you want to admit it or not. It’s human nature, everything starts with a tought, and if you’re careful soon it can manifest into more. Great poem!!!!
Sexual energy is the creative force of the universe, everything in existence is a result of this energy. Some people give off more of this than other’s through speech or body language, its very attractive. Most people are over powered buy this and fall to lust or manipulation. Few will control temptations and use this force to build on higher levels.
So in a relationship it’s best to get two people on the same channel, otherwise there will be static. If your vibrating at a low level ie. insecure, paranoid or easily jealous, it’s good to have someone on or near that same frequency. If you vibe higher, ie. secure in yourself and in your relationship, you’ll also need someone who is on that wave length.
Mask’s always come off after time… patience is key, the higher you vibrate the less you are effected by a flirting mate.
Just my 2cents…
I figured the more comments you get the better so I broke it up, you know I can be long winded. LOL
Lovin the site Divina… The intro is classic, it pulls you in… I was waiting for you to bust into a poem… keep Shining!!!
Sooooo funny as I have had this question posed to me.. “Tina are u a flirt??” and quite naturally I say NO! I write it off as me just being friendly, wanting people to feel comfortable in my presence, (much as you are here)…. smiling at you with my eyes, gesturing my body forward toward you… its not a gimmick, its me naturally, man or woman, lol, I just want you to feel the calm….perhaps it could be called “light” flirting… lol
LOU!!!! You words are soooo on point!!
Thank you all for leaving your footprints!
~TD
Something to add… even when you’re in a relationship, don’t forget to FLIRT with your mate, tease them before you please them… when your out, make them want to go back in…. its always fun…..
You already know…. Listen i am faithful to a fault sometimes but i dont think that flirting (if JUST THAT) is bad. Apparently im a natural flirt no matter how shy i think i am. The line should be drawn when the flirting is leading….If it leads, then its too far. If the lead gets followed up, well thats obviously too far. If someone wants to take friendly for flirting then thats on them which is why i like bold face lines drawn in cement (f the sand cuz that washes away with the tide). I dont like confusion so if a man wants to know if im flirting then just ask cuz ill tell ya either way.
Love the poem and great topic Tina, as I have had many debates on this very subject with family and friends.
Do not get me wrong, I get a kick out of someone enjoying my company. Someone who thinks I’m funny, interesting, and entertaining and if they happen to think I’m attractive too, then hey….nothing wrong with a little ego boost (right?). I would not personally consider myself a flirt but I have spontaneously flirted with someone. Meaning it just happened as a normal response to someone I found very appealing and I was not dating anyone at that time, so in those types of situations I do not have a problem with flirting/flirts.
Where I draw issue, is when they go out of their way to flirt with someone eeeeeeeeverywhere they go. Some people are naturally flirtatious, and use it as a charm tool both socially and in business, and I get that….BUT there are definitely those that use it specifically to seduce. If this is you, then you have to be honest with yourself and begin examining your motives for constantly seeking out someone of the opposite sex to flirt with. At some point, (the chronic flirter, a.k.a. seducer in my opinion) has to stop making excuses and start to realize that you went into each “flirtatious” encounter with your “eyes wide open” and not on a “friendly ” chance encounter. Where people cross the line in relationships is when they lead someone to think that they are in any way sexually available. At least for me, this is when flirting crosses the line and becomes seduction.
If you really care about the one you are with, you are going to want to respect your partner by figuring out his/her comfort levels with your behavior. If they give you the thumbs-up and see your flirting as nothing more than a friendly way to have fun then bravo BUT don’t abuse that trust. (Many of the flirts that I know abuse it and will go too far each and every time.)
If on the other hand your mate has a problem with it and flat out wants the behavior to cease yet you find that you are still tempted……then you need to examine your relationship and figure out if you still want to be in it, it’s as simple as that.
I don’t have problem with harmless flirting. I would say that there is a line and it is crossed when you feel disrespected if u and ur mate are together. That little scenerio that was given its ok as long as they don’t stop and hold a conversation or as she walks pass he follows her down the isle thats over the line in my opinion.
Love ya sis